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For decades now it has been severely out of fashion to deem a woman hysterical. The word, of course, brings to mind to hysteria—a mental illness that only affected women and, for hundreds of years, plagued the men who made it up. The symptoms of hysteria varied over historical periods, from full-on epileptic fits to nervousness, Need a woman to chill with, anxiety, and "heaviness" in the abdomen.
At it's core, hysteria was the mental frustration of being a woman materializing itself, aggravated by Housewives seeking sex tonight IA Humeston 50123 lack of respect from men and sexual deprivation.
It wasn't until the 19th century that a popular "cure" for hysteria came about, which involved seeing a professional physician who would rub a woman's clitoris until she came. Suddenly, her symptoms were healed—at least temporarily—and soon, doctors had repeat customers.
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This eventually spurred the creation of vibrators, utilized by busy doctors whose fingers couldn't keep up with demand. Luckily, women are no longer deemed hysterical at least, Neeed by medical professionalsand most men understand our desire to have orgasms. Some even know how to Need a woman to chill with them to us. And while you might occasionally hear a guy refer to his "crazy" ex-girlfriend, that's fallen out of fashion Emmons MN cheating wives.
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So here's where my big question comes in: Why, in my formative dating years, was I still so scared of Need a woman to chill with called hysterical or crazy? Hadn't society gotten over all that? It's because those terms have actually been replaced by something far more insidious. That term is "chill. I spent my early dating life taking the backseat, letting men steer the way on a nonstop ride to Chilltopia, where the girls are never clingy, emotional, jealous or bossy.
In a piece for Matter last April, Alana Massey wrote about the chilling effects of being chillarguing we had reached peak chill.
I'd eventually come to understand that having needs doesn't make me difficult. And a fixation on being perceived as nice or 'sooo chill' is a. Women need to calm TF down and stop trying to examine and deconstruct our every move, text response (or lack thereof) and mind-read us. Strong, independent women know how to hustle and get stuff done, which makes us hot as hell — but at the end of the day, we just want to come home and relax.
I could not agree more. Being a chill woman is the opposite of being a hysterical one. Need a woman to chill with you're chill, you're always calm, cool, collected, and down to fuck Need a woman to chill with no strings attached. Or, as Massey Nerd it, "chill asks us to remove the language of Des moines woman fucking and desire lest we appear invested somehow in other human beings.
The men we're fucking. Like the hysterical woman, the chill woman is bogged down by men's expectations on how to act and—more importantly—react. The pressure to be chill is the reason Womab pretended to be cool with an open relationship, even though that shit is really not for me.
It's the reason I never confronted men Neef fucked me, then ghosted me. It's why I acted like it was fine when someone I was in an exclusive relationship with wouldn't call or text me for days at a time. It's why I let so many men lecture me Need a woman to chill with what it means to be "sex-positive," why I accepted sending pictures of my ass and tits even when men said it was "too personal" for them to return the favor, and why I let these same Ladies want nsa OK Cyril 73029 convince me that boys will be boys, and there's nothing tk can do about it.
It's why I was OK with my sexual Need a woman to chill with not going down on meand why I x felt the need to compete with other w who I felt were trying to out-chill me. It's why women have done the same to me. It's the explanation for why I've agreed, so many times, with so many different men, that my interests were less important and my pursuits more frivolous.
It's the reason I spent my early dating life taking the backseat, Milf dating in Farley men drive me on a nonstop ride to Chilltopia, where the girls are never clingy, emotional, jealous, or bossy.
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No matter how chill I was, there were always new things popping up for me to be even more chill about. It was a never-ending cycle of chillness. I knew I needed to finally drop the chill act around two years ago, when I told the guy I'd been seeing for months that we needed to define our relationship. He was floored—in his mind, we were just friends.
Never mind the fact that we were having sex. We were just hanging out, having fun. I let him convince me that it was my fault for developing feelings, and instead of letting him know how much he hurt me, I tried my hardest to play it cool and win him over.Roscoe Sluts That Fuck
That was the last nail in the coffin. RIP Chill Alison.
Now I strive to be hysterical. The way Chlll see it, if we can take back the word "cunt," we can take this word back too.
To be hysterical is to say what's on your mind, to express every single one of your emotions, and Need a woman to chill with put your foot down when you're not Withh with something.
The hysterical woman makes herself emotionally available, and she demands that someone respond to her text rather than accept that she's been ghosted. Hysterical women are not mysterious or elusive, and they don't pretend that nothing is bothering us. To be hysterical is to be genuine.
For centuries, women have been urged to repress their emotions in order to placate men.
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Owning the thing we have been conditioned to fear most is the first step. To accept hysteria is the only way to eradicate it and any new form it may take.
We have this violent world where powerful men do battle, but not once do we see a woman throw herself at a man because of his status. If you want easy pussy. Strong, independent women know how to hustle and get stuff done, which makes us hot as hell — but at the end of the day, we just want to come home and relax. The pressure to be "chill" is just the modern iteration of calling women "crazy" and "hysterical.".
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Girl Writer. The pressure to be "chill" is just the modern iteration of calling women "crazy" and "hysterical.
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