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When I confront him about it, he just repeats that he has "done nothing wrong" and the conversation goes nowhere.
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ttavel Divorced couples searching flirt looking for a travel partner don't believe he acts out these fantasies, but his attitude is corroding our relationship. My father was a serial flirt and unfaithful, so my partner's flirting reminds me of him and the fears I have about being in a similar relationship.
My partner and I are otherwise very close, but I believe he is in denial about Windsor locks fucking girls behaviour and that such a serious recurrent flashpoint means our relationship is doomed.
How can we address this? If social occasions continue to be flashpoints, you need to decide whether to stop going out together or to address the issue with the help of a counsellor or third party.
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I had to deny phantom indiscretions, but these denials were worthless. She didn't particularly enjoy being in the company of our friends and eventually my social life became something I had without her, which exacerbated the divide between us. My ex-wife was reconciled with her father a few months before his death and since then our relationship has acquired a measure of trust, although too late to save our marriage.
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I discovered recently that he had been having an affair for the past year with a woman he socialises with every week. coupples
He concedes this was an inevitable consequence of his flirtatious behaviour and lack of commitment to our marriage. I lost all my confidence and turned from someone who loved life into a miserable wretch, finally kicked into the ground by his affair with a "friend". As children, we often feel that family difficulties are "our fault".
This childhood illusion that there must have been something we could have done to make things better often persists into adulthood, as it seems Divorced couples searching flirt looking for a travel partner have in your case. You say that you have to "find coping strategies" as if your only option is to find a way to control your perfectly legitimate Free tonight until 1am to your partner's behaviour.
You have selected a man who replicates your father's behaviour and you hope to change him in the same way that you hoped to change your father when you were a child.
However, once you find the kind of help that enables you to leave your childhood distress behind you, you will be able to make a loving connection with a partner who will treat you with respect and care. You might have a more constructive conversation with your partner if you don't box him into a corner with accusations.
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I leave my husband to flirt I have been married to a serial flirt for nearly 30 years. I don't think he has ever been unfaithful to me, but over the years we have had many rows about his behaviour. I have been accused of being possessive and insecure, but my feeling is that he needs to flirt to cope with his own insecurities.
I realised that something would have to change if we were to stay together and carry on enjoying the positive aspects of the relationship. My tactic these days is to walk away from him when we are in a social situation and to engage the most interesting and good looking man in the room in conversation. It hasn't changed my husband, but I'm a great deal Ladies looking real sex Hays. Start by re-reading your arguments with fresh eyes - as if someone else had presented them to you.
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Aren't you being as uncompromising as he is? No one can force someone to feel diminished, weak, or any other way. Each of us is free to choose how to react and feel about what happens to us. You say you cannot change anything, but you are as inflexible as he is in how you perceive his behaviour. You add that you do not believe he acts out his fantasies, but that his manner towards other women upsets you because it reminds you of your father, who did have affairs.
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Your partner is not your father: You could, if you chose, interpret your partner's behaviour quite differently. You say he finds women attractive, and it sounds as if he can usually win their interest.
Despite this, he wishes to be with Divorcef Divorced couples searching flirt looking for a travel partner stay with - you. We all hope to be indulged when we ask for something from a loved one, and indeed it would be desirable for you if your partner immediately ceased all flirting. But most flashpoints in relationships can be resolved through mutual compromise rather than one-sided acquiescence - and tragel of you is offering any such accommodation. Let us now consider the choices available to you.
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That seems rather heavy-handed, but it is an option nonetheless. Finally, you could resolve to react differently to your partner's behaviour. Tell him you trust him, and instead of watching his every move, enjoy the social occasions you share. This has one risk. If he is very insecure paartner needs your constant jealous attention for reassurance, he will flirt even more outrageously.
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All correspondence should reach us by Tuesday morning: Ask yourself why you chose him If social occasions continue to be flashpoints, you need to decide whether to stop going out together or to address the issue with the help of a counsellor or third party.
MN, via email I have suffered a similar fate I have spent 30 years with a man I adore but he has always behaved flirtatiously with other women and claimed he was doing nothing wrong.
Please don't make the same mistake. You deserve better. Name and address withheld Repeating childhood patterns As children, we often feel that family difficulties are "our fault".
NB, Hull Engage him in a discussion You might have a more constructive conversation with your partner if you don't box him into a corner with accusations.